Do you hate your guild members? - Guild Wars Forums

Oh a GW forum · Oct 02, 2006, 09:39 AM // 09:39

I usually don't last more than two weeks or so in a guild, before I leave because I can't stand the members.

I don't know why, but something about most guilds just annoys the hell out of me. I can't stand it when people have to announce every little triumph of their day, or constantly ask people for free things or something like that... It really takes a lot of restraint not to flame them. Sometimes I do then leave

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Most guilds are crap anyways. You join a guild so you have reliable people to play the game with right? Why then do I have to constantly rely on PUGS for everything everytime I join a guild? I can't even get UW partners from any of my guilds...

So yea, the next time I join a guild and see someone bragging because they beat someone on their touch ranger, I think I'm going to flip out.

Beckii-Chan! · Oct 02, 2006, 11:31 AM // 11:31

I don't hate my Guild, just my Alliance, every 5 minutes the same questions get asked.

"What's a 55hp Monk?"

"What's the best Sword/Axe/Hammer/Armor/Skill/Proffesion/Pet/Staff/Wand/Offhand/Build?"

Etc..

cataphract · Oct 02, 2006, 11:57 AM // 11:57

I'm in luck because I have made many friends in these 16 months of playing GW. I've changed a lot of guilds and always managed to find some bright spots in them. Ofcourse, there's always people that annoy me but that's life. My last guild died off because most of "old gw people" switched to WoW. The alliance was pretty funny with their questions and ideas but I gave up answering when they decided that IWAY required skill and touch rangers weren't mindnumbing. >_<

Kusandaa · Oct 02, 2006, 01:20 PM // 13:20

I've been in this guild since May, and I'm seriously not about to leave

. Despite the average beggar problem every guild HAS to have - let's face it, there's ALWAYS one that uses the chat only to try to get items/money/whatever - and the annoyance that some alliance members are... I like my guild.

It's the alliance I'm starting to find a pain. I don't see any leaders or officers from other guilds on (sorry if they are), or maybe they have their alliance chat off (like most of us, including me ATM) because some members, thankfully not all, have a tendency of completely ignoring the rules or aren't aware of them. I'm ultra-tired of people spamming for help; if you don't get a reply in the minute after you posted your message, don't bother posting it 3 times in a row after. And for God's sake... don't insult others, don't bash anyone because of whatever reason. This isn't generally a problem, but I've had my load yesterday so...

Think I needed to vent, sorry for that XD;...

teenchi · Oct 02, 2006, 04:54 PM // 16:54

I feel pretty lucky about my guild and alliance but we are pretty strict with rules and I think in the long run it pays off. If people don't wanna follow some basic courtesy standards after being reminded, they leave. It all kind of works itself out. I know some people think I'm too strict with my guild rules but it really does help. Our alliance rules are even more strict and some people hate it because the alliance tab is mainly used for game talk or forming teams for gvg and pve instead of the pick up flirts nook or trade center but that's really what it should be used for anyway, not the latter.

That all being said, yes, I still have members that bug me or annoy me. It's part of life, you aren't going to click with everyone but you have to put up with them within normal means. Eventually the ones that don't click leave the guild or get kicked for doing something really obnoxious to another member. But again, yes I can totally relate. Some people are just truly annoying individuals.

Eviance · Oct 03, 2006, 05:42 PM // 17:42

I don't hate my guild at all! I mean the majority of my guild mates are good people. We've found an alliance that works and so forth....

but there is just ONE member on our roster that is just BEGGING to be kicked.... and the reason he hasn't been kicked is out of sheer spite! He says he KNOWS we are going to kick him and thusly the reason he acts like he does and so forth so we let him sit and stew on it and be an ass.... We've tried talking to him and being reasonable but I think he's just nuts honestly.
Our guild leader is my husband, but he said my opinion and word didn't count for shit basically..... That alone almost got him the boot from me...

Oh well, we are content to let him chew off his own arm since he cannot be reasoned with XD

Edit: 7hrs after this post, said member stepped over the line for the last time and started a bickering fight in guild chat because only one person said goodnight to him...... = BOOTED!

DeanBB · Oct 03, 2006, 05:56 PM // 17:56

OP: It sounds like it is you, not the guilds.

Stemnin · Oct 03, 2006, 06:25 PM // 18:25

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeanBB

OP: It sounds like it is you, not the guilds.

I was thinking the same.. sure there are ppl in my guild that kinda annoy me somewhat, but alot of them are new. I just hate playing monk so much.. 800/1700 hours on it, and ive got a war, necro, rit.. also had played both campaigns with ele, ranger.. but guild always needs a monk.. 70 active ppl, 4 have monks. maybe 5.

Xenrath · Oct 03, 2006, 07:11 PM // 19:11

I'd agree sounds like the OP has the problem. If you hate them so much and they don't conform to how you want them to be (ever, apparently) start your own.

-=Yuki=- · Oct 04, 2006, 02:39 AM // 02:39

The last big guild was... well... unorganized. Almost the same with the alliance guilds. It was a guild also recruting newbies and was based on helping eachother. I enjoyed helping those who were new to the game - or simply had questions they never asked before - very much, it was great to see how much more fun they had after learning something new and even helpfull and trying new things. I also learned several lessons e.g.: I've never been gvg before. Though we were kind of a PuG with only few guildmembers, I could try something I never thought of could happen before.
I left because of personal differences and - as a result - big argue with the guildleader. Oh my... I was really hurt after that. But I don't hate him or anyone, nor any alliance member. Everyone has his/her kind of playing the game, why try to change someone? You can only try to do your best for your guild, maybe without receiving anything, as long as you've got fun doing it. This is the only way to stay confident with yourself and your guild. If you always want to get double of what you gave, it won't work. And it won't work either, if you cannot identify yourself with the guild's intention on the one hand and its rules on the other hand. If you don't like the system: quit. And maybe start a guild of your own with your rules, with you choosing members and officers... and your responsibility. IMHO that's the best thing you can do.

It was fun being part of that project, even for only that short period of time (i.e. less than 2 weeks, sounds familiar to you, Oh a GW forum?). I even wanted to build a board for what was 'us' at that time. Frequently asked questios were a problem though, but might have been solved having a board to link to and share our knowledge with one another. It never came to happen, as I said, I left. But I would never say that I hate any of my former guildmates, nor do I hate anyone now.

The guild I am actually officer in is not part of an alliance and only consists of three people: my two best and beloved friends and I. We stick together, we belong together. And having a cape prevents from being asked, if either of us would like to join anyones guild.

I'm just fine and don't want things to change ^^

Kestral Pureheart · Oct 05, 2006, 05:42 PM // 17:42

I have been in my guild since August last year, and I really like most of the people in it. Some of them I don't know so well, but there is no one in it that I regret being in a guild with. It is hard with any bigger group to get to know everyone really well, but hopefully everyone knows someone...

Our alliance also works pretty well. We have quite strict rules and we try and make sure people stick to them. We had to kick one guild out where the leader made no effort to moderate his guildies spamming and abuse, but otherwise we try and work with the allied guilds to help them get used to our way of doing things...some guilds find this easier than others, but if they want to stay they get there in the end

Crystal Alice · Oct 07, 2006, 06:16 AM // 06:16

umm... i don't HATE them but some can get on my nerves...
i really don't like it when the leader promotes people for recruiting like 1 person or promising they will recruit.
another thing is when they ask for help and then don't show up for the help.

there are a handful of people in the alliance that i like and others that brag CONSTANTLY about what amazing new drop they just got, or what cool thing they're doing at that moment. for instance, someone soloing a rare green drop boss who i asked for the build for my little bro and the guy ignored me.
another person also brags about how good their characters are and then when others do pve with them that are actually good, they're very disappointed.

Guardian of the Light · Oct 07, 2006, 06:28 AM // 06:28

Good thing: My guild members are all grat guys and we help each other out.

Bad thing: We're rarely all on at the same time and there are 8 of us.......

Feminist Terrorist · Oct 07, 2006, 06:25 PM // 18:25

I love my guild. The guys are great, lots of fun to chat with, and never beg for anything. The only bad things are that it's rare for more than two people to be on at one time, and it's a bit too small. It's hard to find people that fit in though.

Wavering Balance · Oct 12, 2006, 05:09 PM // 17:09

I've been in two guilds so far. In the first on I was the only one on, even the guild leader was in-active, when i left he had been away for over 3 months. The second guild (my current guild) was suppose to do a bunch of alliance, GvG, PvE and such. And for a time it looked like me might do that, but when a disgruntaled officer kicked out everyone except for the leader. A few of us rejoined but most haven't been on. The leader is the only one who is ever on, and I have yet to do ANY GvG, PvP or Alliance. Plus when I asked for some advice on what to make a PvE char I never got a response.

nbajammer · Oct 12, 2006, 08:12 PM // 20:12

I don't hate my members at all. In fact, I am fortunate to have some of them in my guild. What I do hate, though, is how I can't depend on them sometimes when I know they aren't doing their jobs (such as Officers), or when they want everything handed to them (they find the door pretty quick). I usually take care of them pretty quickly.

Shuuda · Oct 13, 2006, 11:56 AM // 11:56

I like my guild, but there is one problem with them, they ask to do GvGs but when an officer hosts 1, hardly anyone actually turns up.

Maria The Princess · Oct 13, 2006, 06:19 PM // 18:19

i love my guild!!!''

i love the people in my guild!!!

i love the "mood" in the guild

to OP: its normal that 99.99% of guilds have newbies or ignorant "super uber 1337" players, but the only way to avoid them is just to start your own guild, recruit your friends and pick members yourself.

even in a game, its a society man!

-Old 3FL- · Oct 15, 2006, 04:04 AM // 04:04

Nope i dont.
<3 sms.
good ppl
good atmosphere
lots 'o' fun (which is more important to me)

LifeInfusion · Oct 15, 2006, 04:19 AM // 04:19

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeanBB

OP: It sounds like it is you, not the guilds.

I second the notion

Oct 02, 2006, 09:39 AM // 09:39	#1
Oh a GW forum Banned Join Date: Oct 2006 Profession: W/	Do you hate your guild members? I usually don't last more than two weeks or so in a guild, before I leave because I can't stand the members. I don't know why, but something about most guilds just annoys the hell out of me. I can't stand it when people have to announce every little triumph of their day, or constantly ask people for free things or something like that... It really takes a lot of restraint not to flame them. Sometimes I do then leave . Most guilds are crap anyways. You join a guild so you have reliable people to play the game with right? Why then do I have to constantly rely on PUGS for everything everytime I join a guild? I can't even get UW partners from any of my guilds... So yea, the next time I join a guild and see someone bragging because they beat someone on their touch ranger, I think I'm going to flip out.

Oct 03, 2006, 05:42 PM // 17:42	#6
Eviance Desert Nomad Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Eh I forget... o_O Guild: Biscuit of Dewm [MEEP] Profession: R/	I don't hate my guild at all! I mean the majority of my guild mates are good people. We've found an alliance that works and so forth.... but there is just ONE member on our roster that is just BEGGING to be kicked.... and the reason he hasn't been kicked is out of sheer spite! He says he KNOWS we are going to kick him and thusly the reason he acts like he does and so forth so we let him sit and stew on it and be an ass.... We've tried talking to him and being reasonable but I think he's just nuts honestly. Our guild leader is my husband, but he said my opinion and word didn't count for shit basically..... That alone almost got him the boot from me... Oh well, we are content to let him chew off his own arm since he cannot be reasoned with XD Edit: 7hrs after this post, said member stepped over the line for the last time and started a bickering fight in guild chat because only one person said goodnight to him...... = BOOTED! Last edited by Eviance; Oct 04, 2006 at 08:15 PM // 20:15..

Oct 12, 2006, 05:09 PM // 17:09	#15
Wavering Balance Pre-Searing Cadet Join Date: Oct 2006 Profession: N/R	hate my guild I've been in two guilds so far. In the first on I was the only one on, even the guild leader was in-active, when i left he had been away for over 3 months. The second guild (my current guild) was suppose to do a bunch of alliance, GvG, PvE and such. And for a time it looked like me might do that, but when a disgruntaled officer kicked out everyone except for the leader. A few of us rejoined but most haven't been on. The leader is the only one who is ever on, and I have yet to do ANY GvG, PvP or Alliance. Plus when I asked for some advice on what to make a PvE char I never got a response.

Oct 02, 2006, 11:31 AM // 11:31	#2
Beckii-Chan! Ascalonian Squire Join Date: Sep 2006 Guild: Dvd Forums [DVDF] Profession: Rt/	I don't hate my Guild, just my Alliance, every 5 minutes the same questions get asked. "What's a 55hp Monk?" "What's the best Sword/Axe/Hammer/Armor/Skill/Proffesion/Pet/Staff/Wand/Offhand/Build?" Etc..

Oct 02, 2006, 11:57 AM // 11:57	#3
cataphract Forge Runner Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Ashford Abbey Guild: Hey Mallyx [icU] Profession: Mo/Me	I'm in luck because I have made many friends in these 16 months of playing GW. I've changed a lot of guilds and always managed to find some bright spots in them. Ofcourse, there's always people that annoy me but that's life. My last guild died off because most of "old gw people" switched to WoW. The alliance was pretty funny with their questions and ideas but I gave up answering when they decided that IWAY required skill and touch rangers weren't mindnumbing. >_<

Oct 02, 2006, 01:20 PM // 13:20	#4
Kusandaa Forge Runner Join Date: Jul 2006 Profession: N/Mo	I've been in this guild since May, and I'm seriously not about to leave . Despite the average beggar problem every guild HAS to have - let's face it, there's ALWAYS one that uses the chat only to try to get items/money/whatever - and the annoyance that some alliance members are... I like my guild. It's the alliance I'm starting to find a pain. I don't see any leaders or officers from other guilds on (sorry if they are), or maybe they have their alliance chat off (like most of us, including me ATM) because some members, thankfully not all, have a tendency of completely ignoring the rules or aren't aware of them. I'm ultra-tired of people spamming for help; if you don't get a reply in the minute after you posted your message, don't bother posting it 3 times in a row after. And for God's sake... don't insult others, don't bash anyone because of whatever reason. This isn't generally a problem, but I've had my load yesterday so... Think I needed to vent, sorry for that XD;...

Oct 02, 2006, 04:54 PM // 16:54	#5
teenchi Lion's Arch Merchant Join Date: May 2005 Location: PST Guild: Heros of Titans Realm [HotR] Profession: W/Mo	I feel pretty lucky about my guild and alliance but we are pretty strict with rules and I think in the long run it pays off. If people don't wanna follow some basic courtesy standards after being reminded, they leave. It all kind of works itself out. I know some people think I'm too strict with my guild rules but it really does help. Our alliance rules are even more strict and some people hate it because the alliance tab is mainly used for game talk or forming teams for gvg and pve instead of the pick up flirts nook or trade center but that's really what it should be used for anyway, not the latter. That all being said, yes, I still have members that bug me or annoy me. It's part of life, you aren't going to click with everyone but you have to put up with them within normal means. Eventually the ones that don't click leave the guild or get kicked for doing something really obnoxious to another member. But again, yes I can totally relate. Some people are just truly annoying individuals.

Oct 03, 2006, 05:56 PM // 17:56	#7
DeanBB Forge Runner Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Arizona Guild: Wizardry Players Guild, http://4guildwars.7.forumer.com	OP: It sounds like it is you, not the guilds.

Oct 03, 2006, 07:11 PM // 19:11	#9
Xenrath Desert Nomad Join Date: Oct 2005 Profession: W/Me	I'd agree sounds like the OP has the problem. If you hate them so much and they don't conform to how you want them to be (ever, apparently) start your own.

Oct 04, 2006, 02:39 AM // 02:39	#10
-=Yuki=- Ascalonian Squire Join Date: Oct 2006 Profession: E/Mo	The last big guild was... well... unorganized. Almost the same with the alliance guilds. It was a guild also recruting newbies and was based on helping eachother. I enjoyed helping those who were new to the game - or simply had questions they never asked before - very much, it was great to see how much more fun they had after learning something new and even helpfull and trying new things. I also learned several lessons e.g.: I've never been gvg before. Though we were kind of a PuG with only few guildmembers, I could try something I never thought of could happen before. I left because of personal differences and - as a result - big argue with the guildleader. Oh my... I was really hurt after that. But I don't hate him or anyone, nor any alliance member. Everyone has his/her kind of playing the game, why try to change someone? You can only try to do your best for your guild, maybe without receiving anything, as long as you've got fun doing it. This is the only way to stay confident with yourself and your guild. If you always want to get double of what you gave, it won't work. And it won't work either, if you cannot identify yourself with the guild's intention on the one hand and its rules on the other hand. If you don't like the system: quit. And maybe start a guild of your own with your rules, with you choosing members and officers... and your responsibility. IMHO that's the best thing you can do. It was fun being part of that project, even for only that short period of time (i.e. less than 2 weeks, sounds familiar to you, Oh a GW forum?). I even wanted to build a board for what was 'us' at that time. Frequently asked questios were a problem though, but might have been solved having a board to link to and share our knowledge with one another. It never came to happen, as I said, I left. But I would never say that I hate any of my former guildmates, nor do I hate anyone now. The guild I am actually officer in is not part of an alliance and only consists of three people: my two best and beloved friends and I. We stick together, we belong together. And having a cape prevents from being asked, if either of us would like to join anyones guild. I'm just fine and don't want things to change ^^

Oct 05, 2006, 05:42 PM // 17:42	#11
Kestral Pureheart Ascalonian Squire Join Date: Mar 2006 Guild: Rogues to Riches	I have been in my guild since August last year, and I really like most of the people in it. Some of them I don't know so well, but there is no one in it that I regret being in a guild with. It is hard with any bigger group to get to know everyone really well, but hopefully everyone knows someone... Our alliance also works pretty well. We have quite strict rules and we try and make sure people stick to them. We had to kick one guild out where the leader made no effort to moderate his guildies spamming and abuse, but otherwise we try and work with the allied guilds to help them get used to our way of doing things...some guilds find this easier than others, but if they want to stay they get there in the end

Oct 07, 2006, 06:16 AM // 06:16	#12
Crystal Alice Academy Page Join Date: Jul 2006 Guild: VILE Profession: Mo/	umm... i don't HATE them but some can get on my nerves... i really don't like it when the leader promotes people for recruiting like 1 person or promising they will recruit. another thing is when they ask for help and then don't show up for the help. there are a handful of people in the alliance that i like and others that brag CONSTANTLY about what amazing new drop they just got, or what cool thing they're doing at that moment. for instance, someone soloing a rare green drop boss who i asked for the build for my little bro and the guy ignored me. another person also brags about how good their characters are and then when others do pve with them that are actually good, they're very disappointed.

Oct 07, 2006, 06:28 AM // 06:28	#13
Guardian of the Light Forge Runner Join Date: Sep 2005 Guild: Radicals Against Tyrants Profession: W/	Good thing: My guild members are all grat guys and we help each other out. Bad thing: We're rarely all on at the same time and there are 8 of us.......

Oct 07, 2006, 06:25 PM // 18:25	#14
Feminist Terrorist Desert Nomad Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Oh Noes! The 'burbs!	I love my guild. The guys are great, lots of fun to chat with, and never beg for anything. The only bad things are that it's rare for more than two people to be on at one time, and it's a bit too small. It's hard to find people that fit in though.

Oct 12, 2006, 08:12 PM // 20:12	#16
nbajammer Krytan Explorer Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Iowa Guild: Blade And Rose [BaR] Profession: Mo/	I don't hate my members at all. In fact, I am fortunate to have some of them in my guild. What I do hate, though, is how I can't depend on them sometimes when I know they aren't doing their jobs (such as Officers), or when they want everything handed to them (they find the door pretty quick). I usually take care of them pretty quickly.

Oct 13, 2006, 11:56 AM // 11:56	#17
Shuuda Forge Runner Join Date: Jul 2006 Guild: Guildless Profession: Me/	I like my guild, but there is one problem with them, they ask to do GvGs but when an officer hosts 1, hardly anyone actually turns up.

Oct 13, 2006, 06:19 PM // 18:19	#18
Maria The Princess Forge Runner Join Date: Mar 2006 Guild: Aequitas Deis	i love my guild!!!'' i love the people in my guild!!! i love the "mood" in the guild to OP: its normal that 99.99% of guilds have newbies or ignorant "super uber 1337" players, but the only way to avoid them is just to start your own guild, recruit your friends and pick members yourself. even in a game, its a society man!

Oct 15, 2006, 04:04 AM // 04:04	#19
-Old 3FL- Forge Runner Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Western Australia. Guild: Crystal Mountain [CM] Profession: W/	Nope i dont. <3 sms. good ppl good atmosphere lots 'o' fun (which is more important to me)